When younger I was very shy and knowing how to build confidence in myself would have been really useful. The first day in a new class at school has always been the worst one as having to present myself I was just able to become as red as a hot pepper and say only a couple of words. Really unpleasurable. Surely I was shy but definitely I also suffered from a lack of confidence in myself as the two are usually linked together. Now things are pretty better.
This time I’m not going to tell you how to use Hypnosis or Positive Affirmations to build confidence, maybe next time. I want to tell you instead that you can be more confident in yourself simply by taking little steps and enlarging your comfort zone. I know because I did it.
How to build Confidence the Easy Way:
The only reliable, easy and simple way to become more self-assured is to push your limits at little steps at a time but more or less continuously. After a while you’ll be able to ask that special girl or boy to have a date with you, to tell the waiter the food wasn’t that good, to ask your boss for clarifications or a better position and so on. And really it is that easy, you just have to push yourself and practice. You could even discover that what scares you most is one of your hidden abilities.
Take public speaking for example, you know it’s one of the scariest things to do for everyone and especially so for shy people. Well after years being frightened about talking to others I took a public speaking course and at the end I discovered that I’m pretty good at it; or at least that I’m able to deliver efficiently the message I want even if I’m still a bit anxious. Just push yourself to the limit and cross them, again following the little steps rule and you’ll see how to build confidence is pretty simple. First times it won’t be so but believe me that practice makes perfection.
For example you can begin by saying “Hi” to the checkout clerk at the market, then next time add “How is it going”, then again something like “Nice hairstyle” and so on. You don’t need to talk about the weather, it’s just to start a conversation and having you saying a couple of words. Adding a smile usually helps too. The same thing can be done more or less everywhere and you’ll soon be able to start a conversation easily, with confidence and in a cool way. At work, at shops, at home, wherever you want.
And believe me that this will make wonders to build confidence in yourself in every field because once you’re able to express yourself and what you think everything follows. You just have to take the first little step and begin because once you’re able to talk easily with everyone then the rest can’t be that difficult right?
Is this too simple? Might be, but before spending money in courses or books try it and see for yourself if this simple trick isn’t enough to get you started. Then you can buy books or take courses, especially a public speaking one, to hone your abilities but you’ll have a bigger foundation and a greater knowledge about being confident. Beginning with saying a couple of words when you go outside with time and practice you’ll end up being much more sure about yourself and being at ease with others will be natural and more or less effortless.
So, this is how to build confidence in yourself in a simple way, what do you think?